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| Tips for making long distance relationship |
Part 1
Maintain normality if you can
1. Stay in touch. As you do not personally see, it is important to create and maintain an emotional connection as often as possible. These are not always long and extensive conversations. The frequent communication, regardless of the smaller, shows that you are interested enough to put time and effort into the relationship and it is easier to keep people's lives side by side. If you allow important passages (both days), your daily experiences disappear in the background and you have to start from the ground you speak every time.
Discover the preferred method of communication from your partner. Be sure to have a variety of technologies to try to see what suits you best. You can try to keep SMS messages, e-mails or video calls you small everyday details of your life.
Avoid your schedule. If you know that you are too busy to communicate, leave your partner in advance and try to keep as much contact as possible. If you are not as busy as your partner, stay flexible and focus on your interest.
2. Talk about secular things, little things. Do not think that any conversation is a thoughtful discussion about your relationship, your hopes and dreams. Instead, focus on the little things that couples who live together, like shopping, doing tasks around the house or renovating. That gives the feeling of creating a house together, you can expect both.
Talking boring or banal parts of the day can also promote the connection and interdependence, the basis of the relationship.
3. Visit often. Try to visit if you visit as often as possible or as often as your budget. You need to see you personally at every opportunity. Make a regular hours visit or at least make plans for the next visit when everyone ends. Face-to-face communication is just as important as satisfaction, commitment, and trust in relationships.
Create your own rituals to eat your visits, like at a favorite restaurant, enjoy a quiet evening at home together or share a favorite activity.
Smooth logistics of the trip, so they do not reduce your time together. Know where to get to the airport or train station. Learn to travel with a bag or save the bases in the home of your partner's time at the airport.
Sometimes at home. Visit together a place is new for both of you, or choose between a half way place.
4. Know yourself. Like any relationship, you should know time and understand your partner. When you speak, take the things that your partner enjoys most (like hobbies or daily activities) and do a little research so that you can discuss something.
If the preferences of the other will also help if you want to exchange gifts. The exchange of gifts is just another way to communicate your feelings to each other on the long distance.
5. Remember that your partner is a human being. The distance makes the heart grows, but can also make you imagine your partner. While this makes your stable relationship, extreme idealization (think your partner is perfect) it will be harder to make ends with the real person.
Communication daily on your daily life will help to humanize your partner and be about the changes that your partner could use.
6. Have support, even at a distance. Be it for your partner, if your partner still struggles, hurts or for some reason. You need partners to help you. If your partner only deals with major issues, your partner will eventually not need you. The interdependence refers to the will to act against your own interest in favor of your partner or your relationship. Instead, support for a long-distance relationship creates a crucial interdependence.
Interdependence can be seen in daily activities, such as compromise decisions and long-term behaviors such as smoking.
7. Building trust. Trust in a relationship is crucial, regardless of the distance. Do your best to be faithful and avoid temptations. If you make a mistake, it is particularly important to be honest and tell your partner the truth in cases where the mensage benefits you. For example, if you put them yourself in temptation (as in a bar), lying about your venue will personally benefit you, but your relationship would benefit if you are honest.
The frequent use of e-mail and online resources can help build trust in relationships.
8. Be open and honest in private information. Personal values are convictions such as "real part of my identity remain." Social pressure means the perception of consent or Rejection of the company. For example, "My mother would be devastated if I was betrayed on my girlfriend and she broke with me."
Pay attention to the behavior when your partner is trying to manipulate you to do something that only your partner will benefit, such as an emergency will not help you lie to answer your phone during an important business meeting. If dishonesty and manipulation become part of your communication, you need to rethink why your relationship lack of confidence.
9. Do nothing, irrational, just because you are a little angry or upset they said or did. Communication is the key, if you have a problem, then do it, it will strengthen the confidence and a stronger bond. You can not maintain a relationship when you do them something, afraid because you have done something in anger.
Part 2
To do things together and bind
1. Give something. Create something that you can access as an online blog or album and share with others. This will give you a new way to communicate while you feel together to create something. You can create a food blog with your culinary adventure, create your Instagram training or a special Twitter hashtag for two.
Share your online calendar. If you have forgotten, you have a place where you can see why. They will also have something to say, as in "How the concert last night was that?"
2. Perform the same things at the same time. This will make the distance between you smaller and more comfortable. You will feel closer and you will bind you together. If you are not sure to do things, try one of the following options:
Plan to do the same meal the same day. If you are not in the kitchen, you might be willing to eat the same food or a snack.
Read the same book or article. You can even talk it out loud.
Watching a TV show or a movie at the same time. Keep an open conversation and share your reactions.
Use video phones during meals or watching movies to talk to each other.
Sleep together. You can both imagine the phone or video chat and sleep coincide. Occasionally can do this, make you feel closer. If time zones are too different, try to be online to say good evening or a good night to your partner.
3. Learn everything. Choose a project that you like to do as a language class online-taking or learning to knit. Do what you want. This gives you a wonderful sense of common history and will make you something that really binds. It is also a great way to spend time with each other by discussing something.
Use the Internet. You can play a multiplayer online game or something traditional, like chess. Anyway, you can chat while playing a greater sense of unity.
4. Have something special. Try to do small things that the other person know you are interested in. You can write love letters and send them by e-mail. Or send small gifts, cards or flowers without reason. It's easier than ever to find ways to send almost anything to your partner.
Do not feel like you are sending something that makes a great gesture. The frequent little things are as important as making sure that the person feels especially for special occasions.
5. Track interests. Try new things together, even if it is distinctive. This way, you are talking not only on the phone, which can be a trap of remote connections, if that is the only thing you do. Instead, do something romantic like the beginning of a star while you are on the phone. Synchronize your clocks and at the same time every day, and make it a moment to think about when your watch off.
Remember that your partner is thinking about you while you are doing these activities together even when you are away. It can strengthen your bond.
6. Create connections. It is important to think that you have a place in the life of your partner. Try to meet friends from each other, online or offline. This will help you better understand the life of your partners and facilitate communication.
If one of you has to move 1 day for you, this person will leave friends behind. Now start creating a new social and professional network for the partner who is moving.
part 3
Attitude expectations and limits
1. Discuss the nature of your relationship. Ask the important questions now to ensure that you are clear on the nature of the relationship. Decide what kind of relationship you both want. For example, do you come to be friend-friend or busy? You should also define the exclusivity of the relationship (you see other people). For example, you might ask, "Are you open to move when the relationship becomes more serious?" Or, "What do you want this relationship out?"
While these problems can be difficult to install and lead to difficult conversations, the definition of the relationship later will save you the trouble and misunderstanding. This is important to create the relationship that you both want.
2. Speak the doubt, uncertainty and fear together. Discover the frightening and difficult subjects with well. Consider this a chance to explore your feelings honestly together. Recognize the ups and downs of the partner while you are physically disconnected, making you more acceptable and comfortable with their weaknesses as you see in person.
It is understandable that you only want to focus on the positive. But you should let your partner know your weaknesses. They are both men, and it is good not to be always happy.
3. Stay positive. Concentrate on the positive aspects of distance, such as the ability to pursue your interests, your hobbies, and your career goals. Realize that the distance will push you to be more creative when it comes to communicating your feelings and expressing them. Look at this as an opportunity to test your skills in communication and emotions.
Until you see the long distance relationship as a passing state, you will keep your chin and you and transfer the feeling of safety and happiness to your partner.
4. Have reasonable expectations. Remember, any kind of relationship takes a lot of work and commitment to your loved one or partner, either from a distance or close by. If you and your partner are ready to take these steps, wait for the bumps and turn on the road. If you can navigate these challenges, learn to contribute only a better long-term relationship.
For example, you may be willing to have trouble to keep important dates or holidays where you need to be separated. If you know that you can not be together for a birthday, try to connect a special way to plan anyway.
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