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| How to Ditch Friends in Bad Faith |
If it feels like some friends "are not on it", maybe it may be time to clean the house. With insincere or inconsiderate friends in your life can not only make you feel blue, but it can also have a toxic effect on your health and well-being. Life is too short to play with dishonest people, so take in who your real friends are and start anchoring your list of friends.
Steps
1. Identify the friends who bring negativity into your life. If you have friends put your eyes or a whisper behind your back, want it inside the "naughty" list. Personalities belong to the following:
Verdict: This friend tried that you think he knows better than you and / or trying to correct on every train.
Manipulator: He does not have the best interest in the heart, but his own. This friend will dig in your weaknesses and use them against you for your benefit.
Narcissistic: It is that the friend 07,24. This friend is very focused on his needs and does not care about himself or his feelings.
Obligation: This friend never makes you a priority and if you really need a friend, he will not be there to support you.
2. Take friends who are always at your disposal. To determine which of your friends are sincere (or negative), first think of friends whom you have no doubt about; Those who are always at your disposal through thick and thin. Qualities to compare with your friends who are in the pit:
Cases where a friend needs. Think about the last time you had a crisis or even wanted to tell a little wonderful news. How did your true friend react and how did the other friend respond?
How a conversation is divided During a conversation with a real friend you are about to give and take. They share some of their daily lives or life and then ask their friend or days of life, such as a game of tennis. Do you talk to your potentially untruthful friend or is it one-sided, where your friend wants to talk only about themselves and does not ask for you?
Does your friend try to solve their problems or tell you what to do to convince them to stop? A good friend is often just listening and engaging you if you have a hard day or struggle with difficult problems. If you do not ask for advice, try to overthrow your friend and tell him what to do (or what you are doing wrong), so that the conversation can be shifted back to them?
Time with your boyfriend spend Apart from long-distance friends, spend time with your friend, when it is convenient for both, or just those occasions when your friend can press on your schedule?
3. Reduce contact with insincere friends. Once you have confirmed that you do not improve certain friends and enrich your life, cut the cord. You should not go into a fight and yell and shout at the person, but you can withdraw from the relationship with grace. In some cases, the other "friend" does not even realize that you have left the relationship because they had so little invested in it! (In other words, not too concerned about his reaction.)
Stop calling your friend. Especially if you're the one who always starts calls, listen, select the phone to have a conversation with him.
Do not comment on social networking updates or messages. Do not "Unfriend" your friend, but do not follow and comment on the photos or messages.
Keep communication short and to the point. If by email or call the sincere friend for any reason, be friendly, but keep the conversation or email by topical. A simple "how are you?" It's good, but stay focused on the real job and it will not make you even more in someone else's life.
4. Maintain your usual social circles, but reduce the total interaction with the friend. Cuts not from a circle of mutual friends to get away from this person, but to walk in a social situation of people who are your true friends and levitate the sincere friend from person to person.
You can help tell your trusted friends, why not go out with that person so they can understand the reasoning behind the termination.
5. Have you prepared for what you do or say when the sincere friend will face you. In some cases, the sincere friend will wake up and realize that he is not phoning or hanging with him. If you want to dig well, you have prepared a plan or a speech when you faced and want to know why you did not call. Some of the reasons you might use are:
"I have been very busy." The universal language of "you blow away, so I'll say I'm busy" because no one is going to put their plan into question. Of course, you are too busy, you never have the root of the problem, but if you are not confrontational, this method can do the trick. Also, when this friend really interested, they would try harder, but because they are unlikely to do so, this brush-off will work soon.
"I do not feel the love." Go for the taste, if you are prepared for a small fire. If you beabsichtest to tell your friend that you feel the feeling that the relationship is not working for you, take responsibility for your feelings and multiply say, "You make me feel ..." If you have it, there is little that the other Person can do to prevent you from being wrong. If you plan to have this conversation, you should be prepared to tell the other person how you feel. Do not call or make accusations. The point of "break" with the friend is to end the relationship, not to create more drama.
The complete avoidance. Another way to deal with a potential confrontation (or not) is to completely hide from the other person. The "head in the sand" approach can be difficult, especially if you share friends in common or go to the same restaurants, bars and other retail establishments. Check internal diameter of calls Before answering the phone (if it is "friend", let it go directly to voice mail) and does not respond to emails, twitter messages or Facebook requests. Hopefully, after a few weeks your ex-boyfriend will get the hint and not pursue his friendship.
6. Go with your life. Your other friends are still there and you are a strong person to place these old, sincere, energy-saving friend aside. Do not live in it; The earlier you learn to distance yourself from dishonest people while remaining civilians, the sooner you will be better prepared to deal with such people in all walks of life. See learned this crazy experience as a lesson.
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