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| How do you do with the couple's tattoo, which they do not like |
Maybe you are shocked and horrified because your partner just came home with a surprise tattoo. Or maybe you've told your partner in advance that you want no tattoos, but still have one. Regardless of the exact circumstances that I hate tattoos and your partner now has one. The best way to deal with your partner tattoo is to give your partner your feelings, to find out why your partner got a tattoo and struggled with the tattoo. Also remember that with your partner because of the emotional connection you have with them, and not because of their appearance. Changing your easy appearance with a tattoo should not change your emotional connection with your partner.
Method 1
Find out why your partner has a tattoo
1. Check with your partner about the meaning of the tattoo. Many people get tattoos that have some kind of symbolic significance or significance. Ask your partner, who is your tattoo. This can help you understand the tattoo better and deal with it.
For example, a tattoo of a name, initials or date may symbolize the death of a family member or a close friend.
On the other hand, the tattoo could symbolize a hobby or a passion. For example, a tree can symbolize a passion for nature.
Some tattoos are considered as the motivation. For example, they have to see something on a bad day to give inspiration.
2. Find out what motivates them to get a tattoo. Certain events, such an important birthday, a new job, the termination of a contract or the birth of a child could motivate a person to get a tattoo. In these cases, the tattoo is meant to be a specific opportunity to commemorate or celebrate. They may be more inclined to accept the tattoo, even though they do not like it when you find that a big event your partner has motivated to get the tattoo.
3. Listen to your partner. If your partner explains the origins of your tattoo, it is important that you actively listen to them. This will prove that you care about what they say and are interested in learning about your tattoo. This will also help you and your partner have a constructive conversation about the tattoo, rather than just in an argument.
Sit in conversation, make eye contact and nod your head from time to time to show that you are listening.
Ask questions to show that you are involved in the conversation.
4. Accept that you can not have a "good" reason. Your partner may not have a "good" cause (in your opinion) for a tattoo, but you may feel as if your reason for getting the tattoo was a good one. Even with the tattoo agreement, you can continue to comply with the decision. Try to accept the fact that maybe your partner just wanted a tattoo and just like the concept of body art. It is important to respect the decisions of your partner how they want your body to look.
Remember that a tattoo can alter the appearance of your partner, but it will not change the bond you share with your partner.
Method 2
Your feelings to communicate
1. Explain your concerns before a tattoo is done. If your partner has thought of a tattoo for a while, you should explain why you do not like tattoos before you actually get one. For example, tattoos can be a trigger for you and bring back unpleasant memories and experiences. Or maybe to find tattoos unprofessional and unattractive. Once you explain why you do not like tattoos, your partner may decide to get none.
Remember that your partner has the right to control the appearance of the body. Avoid not manipulating your concern about tattoos as a way to manipulate your partner a tattoo. You can share your fear, but try to be respectful of your partner's wishes.
2. Share your feelings after the fact. If your partner comes with a surprise tattoo, without notice home, you should still vocalize your feelings. Be careful to be respectful and remember that your partner has the right to do what they want to do with their bodies. For example, you might say, "I wish you had told me that you wanted to get a tattoo, so we talked about it in advance and were able to reach a compromise." This will allow you to get your feelings out of my chest and you and your partner can come to an understanding.
If your partner got a surprise tattoo of your name or image, it was probably thought of as a nice touch. You should not be too critical because you are trying to demonstrate your commitment and your feelings about your relationship.
3. Use a calm and soft tone. When talking to your partner about your new tattoo, do not shout or use an aggressive tone. Instead, you should approach in silence and gently to talk to us. This way, you will not attack your partner, but try to come to an understanding. Take a deep breath before speaking.
You can also try a little time to cool down before your partner about your new tattoo.
4. Ask your partner to include you next time. Maybe you're upset because your partner did not tell you about the tattoo beforehand. As a result, you feel as if your partner does not value your opinion. Tell your partner that you have seen and felt a lack of respect. If your partner understands that your negative response comes from a place of pain, they may be able to better understand your position and it will be the next time you decide to make a big change in your appearance.
Method 3
Reached an agreement with your tattoo partner
1. Realize that this is not your decision. Once you and your partner have been talking openly and honestly about the tattoo, you must respect that this is not your body and therefore your decision. They like the tattoo they do not like, but if you want to stay in a relationship with your partner, then it is a good idea to accept the fact that you have no control over what your partner puts your body.
You can always have your opinion, but the final decision is up to your partner about whether or not to get a tattoo.
2. Determine if the tattoo is a supply item for you. You may decide that you both like tattoos that you can not be with your partner in a relationship. In some cases, the best way for you to manage is to leave the relationship. For example, if your partner got a tattoo that you consider offensive, you may decide that you can no longer be in a relationship with that person. Try to ask some questions to determine your feelings for that person:
"What initially attracted me to my partner? Is the attraction still there, or does it have to change now, because of the tattoo? Why?"
"What is the real cause of my concerns with the tattoo?"
"What emotions do I feel associated with the tattoo? Why do I feel these emotions? Are the emotions really connected to the tattoo, or to talk about the fact that my partner made the decision without me?"
"If the cause of my emotions / concerns is something that I can control or director is through healthy coping skills? Is it something that maybe should be in conjunction with a professional counselor or is it something I am capable of Solve? "
3. Find something positive about the tattoo. You may be able to cope better with the tattoo if you are able to find something that you like from it. For example, perhaps it is small and not so remarkable, so you can learn to live with it. Or maybe the tattoo is in a place not visible and you will not be able to see mostly by clothing. Try to find something positive about the tattoo to help you cope.
Over time, you will probably get used to that tattoo.
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